domestic violence

The most people dont like to talk about domestic violence so you think you are the only one who has to do with it. But domestic violence is unfortunately far too common. You're not alone!
Maybe you dont want to admit it that you are a victim of domestic violence, maybe you just hope that it's gonna stop and that is was the last time. Or maybe you just think it's your own fault, as victim from demistic violence you always try to talk it good but it his fault not yours!
He is the one who has a problem, he should change and make you trust him again!
In a marriage there are two people wrong, there need two people to fix it and two people to ruin it! But as victim from domestic violence you are not the one who is wrong!!! Dont ever forget that it isnt your fault.
Domestic violence you cant avoid it but you can stop it!
If you know someone who is victim or you are self victim of it do something and dont wait any longer because how longer you wait you are gonna sink deeper and deeper in the shit!
You'r only wrong if you stay in it, you cant do anything while your there you only can stop it by leaving... it hurts to leave everything behind you, to just turn you back on it and trying to forget it! But it's the only way to survive...
If there are children in the marriage and you just take them and leave he can indicate you, but as a women who is victim from domestic violence you stay strong and he he the one who is wrong, you are the mother of the child(ren) and if you are be able to take care and educate them there is no judge who is going to say you should have them with you. You just need to divorce and in the most cases the mother takes the guardianship of the child(ren), only if the mother cant take care of them or is sick and someone else need to take care of them than the father takes the guardianship of the child(ren) or if he isnt be able too than they go to foster care.
But anyway that is not the subject I was talking about. So about domestic violence again.
I knew a family who were victims of domestic violence, they were afraid to express their feelings, afraid to have their own opinion, they were living years after years in fear. Till the moment the mother decided to choose for herself and her children, they packed their stuff and left their father/husband.
The hardest thing they ever did was that, but sometimes to survive and for the welness of your family you need to do some difficult and hard things. Sometimes you need to start over again from zero with nothing else than each other and survive together! It's you guys against the world! You are not alone in this, you have people around you, people their care about you! I know you have the feeling that no one understands you but that is wrong there are more people in this world which are in the same position as you. Did you know that only 19% from the victims report it? They are so afraid for the rights system that they cant help them or just give some advice but they dont stop the violence.
As mother the first thing you want to take care off is the welness of your child(ren), to give them a safe place to grow up, to be the person for them they could trust in everything!! A mother always do the best for the welness for her child(ren) even if it doesnt work out like the way she planned she always try to make it work. And sooner or later that one strong indepented woman makes the difference for her children, because she wasnt anymore the weak one who was dependet from everyone else except herself! A woman needs to trust and believe in her self in her feeling and her own intuition, a man dont have that strong feeling like a woman and a woman has it she just need to use it right!
anyway write tomorrow or any other day soon again more about domestic violence, problems in marriage etc